Okay, we’ve added some pressure in the way of time, and you have committed to making sure that the outcome is clear by the end of the time allotted. So now you are ready to do something about the boredom or frustration people feel in meetings.
One of the main reasons that people feel bored or frustrated in meetings is that there isn’t any drama. Not because it isn’t there, but because, well, people just aren’t bringing up their differences. So, to counteract that, we bring out the drama llama. We do! We bring out the drama llama.
Look, one of the biggest drains on people at work and in meetings is not being relevant, and they aren’t relevant if they are simply there to nod their head. If everyone is in full agreement all the time on every issue, then all but one person in that meeting are redundant.
Another drain on a person is not even getting their say. People don’t need to have their way, but they need to have their say. This helps to establish their relevance, and it also helps to ensure that you get the most out of your team because you benefit from having more perspectives to find potential obstacles and solutions.
Despite the benefits, people resist the idea of having debates, saying they don’t want to start a fight. But most fights originate in the lack of communication, not the presence of it. When people do show times when disputes have occurred because they said something I can usually show that it actually occurred because they didn’t follow through completely; they stopped communicating partway through.
Get the the most out of your team! When you are in a meeting, wait for someone to present a position on the topic at hand, ask for a counterpoint, then wait. That last part – the waiting – is the hardest, but it is worth it.